Lil' D is 3 months old!! Damn time flies. I still don't see much of myself in her features, but each month she looks different. She's taken to sucking her thumb while rubbing her ear. She sucks it so loudly, it's so annoying. As soon as you take her thumb from her mouth she screams bloody murder and she refuses the pacifier. Overall she is a peaceful, smiley baby who refuses to sleep in her bassinet {I've created a monster}.
Last night after watching the movie Devil, we watched the latest episode of the Braxton Family. Now I'm not much of a television watcher, but when something intrigues me, as the Braxton girls do, I am a dedicated viewer. In this episode the girls planned a dinner with their estranged father. From the beginning of the show I was trying to understand the psyche of these women. For instance, they love fake beauty enhancements, choose men poorly, and just overall seem to have deep-seeded issues. Well I figured it out! They have classic Daddy issues.
Their Dad was a very religious man, and a big time whore. Toni mentioned she didn't wear pants until she was 14.5 years old. I always wondered why she dressed sooooo damn provocative and I finally got my answer. As a teacher I see classic cases of this issue in both my male and female students. Not having a father-figure is detrimental to a child's development.
"Generally, daddy issues implies that a female remains incomplete and seeks some sort of fatherly or familial relationship with mates, which is not the best foundation upon which to build a relationship. Fathers or strong and consistent male presence in a girl’s life do have a significant effect on self-esteem. This is largely undisputed by experts in psychology. Feeling attractive and loved by “daddy” (or other strong male figure) can help a girl have more confidence and strength. This is not necessarily penis envy, but it does appear as though girls and women can prosper better in their lives if they had positive male input from a father figure. Without that, girls may express daddy issues in seeking out father figures, or placing even very good men with whom they are in relationship, in positions that they really can’t adequately fill." Source
I remember my second year of teaching, one of my female students asked me why I didn't have any kids with D. She knew we had been together for several years and she couldn't fathom the idea that we were childless, especially because we were living together, and owned a house. My answer to her was I was not married and I made the decision not to be a Baby Mama. This little 12 year old girl said, "That's stupid" and went on to clarify the reasons for her statement. She had never seen a couple, other than white people {her words}, married before having kids, unless they were on t.v. I told her a lot. Mainly that her way of thinking was problematic and counterproductive. With so many Black children
Total Percentage of Single Parent Households in America
Non-Hispanic White 24%
Black or African American 67%
American Indian 53%
Asian and Pacific Islander 16%
Hispanic or Latino 40%
Total 34% OF U.S. Population
Older pictures I neglected to post
Lil' D's legs are so cute and chubby.
I really want to pierce her ears soon.
Rest stop photo op -- Lil' D was tired
After eating at the $20 per person Hibachi Grill/Buffet-- You like my $40 Rx glasses from Walmart?
Its hot and my hair is suffering. They say once you have your baby your hormones change your hair.
Well honey my hair is as dry as the Sahara Desert.
At the mall with Titi and Papi
